Sunday, September 28, 2008

A note to working moms...

If you are a working mom please don't over compensate with your child. Many of you are feeling guilty for working for whatever reason you are working. The reason doesn't matter the fact that your child is in daycare, with a nanny, grandparent, or whatever. Parents are feeling guilty and they are over compensating. Stop buying things out of guilt, stop taking them places out of guilt, you want to buy them something fine, but don't let guilt be the reason. You want to take them on vacations fine, but not because you are trying to make it up to them because you're out of the house 40 - 50 hours a week. It's okay. Is it the best scenario, no it's not. Instead of buying, or taking, let your time together be of a sincere quality. Your children need to know you want to spend time with them because they are important to you. One of the best pieces of advise ever given to me was this, "Play with your children." They are children, and what do children love to do the most? You've got it! Play. Of course they need to play with other children, but trust me who better to play with than the people they love the most in the entire world. Mommy and Daddy. And...playtime should not be teaching time. It's playtime. Get on the floor, roll around, be silly, dance silly, have fun!!!!!!!! And...whenever you can, mommy and daddy should make time for all of you to play together. This to a young child is comforting, bringing security and fun all at the same time. Things are nice and they should have them but never more than they have you!!!!!!!!!! Ciao (chow)

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

I wish I would have had this when my daughter was younger... maybe you can help some of us that have "18 year old Diva daughters."

When are you writing a book?