Saturday, October 11, 2008

Wake up and smell the cheaters!

I was listening to Good Morning America on my way to work and they did a piece on high school students cheating on tests. GMA shared that on youtube students can go on and learn how to cheat from other students. There are even videos and downloads to help. They actually spoke to a student who operates one of these sites. They asked if she thought it was wrong to teach students to cheat and her response was "I don't tell them to cheat that's their decision." Typical answer. So of course my first thought was where are this child's and I repeat "child's" parents. Where are they when she is giving a course on cheating. It's ironic the student is "teaching" the students how to cheat the student has become the teacher. In the time it takes to learn how to cheat a student could of just studied. But that's a topic for another time. So where are the parents? You ask why do the parents get the blame for everything? Because it's our fault, that's why. Let's talk here. When the parent calls out from work, changes their voice to sound sick, lies to their boss, what do you think the child is thinking. You can think about that for a moment yourself. When the parent cheats on income tax, finds a wallet and keeps the money, lies to their friends, "can't make it today not feeling well" or phone rings, "tell them I not here". Should I continue or do you get the point? What lessons are we teaching our children? Children do what they see? Do you get this? If you do it they will do it? So, we now have all this concern about students cheating. GMA said and I quote, "75% of all high school students are cheating." 75% is outrageous! Out of 100 students only 25 of them are not cheating. If you are a parent reading this and you have lied in front of your children. Right now today go apologize, tell them you were wrong, tell them it is wrong to lie. Tell them you had an awakening and want to change your ways. It's never to late, never, to begin to do things differently. Parents, be honest and ask yourself if you're raising a chump or a champ? If the answer is chump then do something about it. Today! Ciao (chow)

Tuesday, October 7, 2008

surprise ending

I said a few blogs ago I would address "training" again. Here goes... some helpful training tips, and this blog has a surprise ending.

1. A well-behaved, well socialized child learns lots of class and diplomacy from early training.

2. Training lays the foundation for learning that will serve him and you for the rest of his/her life.

3. There are resources for you before unwelcome and inappropriate behaviors.

4. Wait before exposing child to high risk population. It should be a controlled setting with other healthy children where the risk is quite low.

5. Handle child gently, no strong verbal reprimands.

6. Environment promotes calmness

If you've been reading my'll remember me saying the first 3 weeks of a baby's life is mostly sleeping and at 3 weeks it all ends. Read on...

7. First three weeks a baby's activities consist primarily of eating and sleeping. This is the neonatal, or newborn, period. It seems not much is going on in the brain but early neurological stimulating exercises, such as holding them, turning them over and exposing them to minor temperature changes can benefit. At three weeks of age they show significant improvement in their ability to learn.

8. Children need exposure to many things, household sounds such as blenders, vacuum cleaners - anything they might need to deal with on a regular basis for the rest of their lives.

9. Children are tiny, fragile, and vulnerable, but this doesn't make them any less interested in living. Their natural curiosity can border on reckless, which means child proofing your humble abode from the ground up. Hazards like electrical cords, medications, houseplants, and cleaning products should be stored out of reach.

I can go on and on and on but enough with the tips, everyone of the above tips were taken from a DOG magazine "Yorkshire Terrier Puppy's". 129 pages of how to train and take care of a new puppy. Thus...the surprise ending. All I did was replace the word puppy with the word child or baby. Am I comparing a puppy to a baby. Of course not. Just trying to make a point here. If I were to bring a puppy home and didn't take the time to get him on a feeding schedule, teach him to potty outdoors, not to bite, when to sleep, etc., what would I have? A puppy that would grow into a selfish, spoiled, adult dog that even his owner would have a hard time loving. No different with a child. Some of you might take offense of the puppy/child comparison but I truly am only trying to show you how important it is to train your children. "Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it." Proverbs 22:6. If the world has enough sense to publish a magazine with 129 pages of puppy training how much more do parents need advice on raising a baby. Maybe 50% of you are educating yourselves and reading but I know for a fact by the misbehaved children I see and hear the OTHER 50% are not. And there is no excuse, you work, you're tired, laundry, cooking, whatever. Invest your time into finding out how to raise a child. We have training for everything. This country spends millions of dollars on athletics, children at 8 yrs of age have personal trainers and yet these very same children rarely say, please or thank you. Help me here people, go buy the book Dare to Discipline by James Dobson. Trust me I am talking from experience the mistakes I made were many, just trying to save you from the same. I have been a mother for 37 years, I know what I'm talking about. I always thought children outgrow negative behavior, guess what, they don't. e.g. if you don't potty train a child they'll be pooping in their pants when their 10! It's the training that stops this from happening. Just like manners they don't come naturally. Putting their toys away there's nothing natural about it, they have to be taught. I'm tired now going to bed. Ciao (chow)

Thursday, October 2, 2008

Should I write a book?

I'm receiving numerous emails suggesting I write a book. Take a moment to vote and please be honest. Thanks. Ciao (chow)

18 yr old divas

Listen to me. It's never too late. So, you created a completely materialistic girl! Don't take all the blame, TV just keeps adding fuel to the fire! Peer's do not help the situation! And, this we all know, for years we have been living in materialistic world, and for sure this is nothing new. And everyone of us is guilty, it's just different degrees. We say, how can she spend 1500.00 on a handbag. We all know if we were in a position to spend 1500.00 we would, you're telling a story if you don't agree. If someone is earning lets say 250,000.00 a year and purchases a 2000.00 handbag that's about 1% of their yearly income. Now, if someone is earning 50,000.00 a year any purchases a handbag for 300.00 now lets see that would be about....1% of their income as well. At one time or another we have all gotten caught up in this crazed fashion call it whatever world! I refuse to even bring shoes into this blog! Talk about losing control. Anyway I did it again I went off on a tangent. So Sorry. Here we go...back to the 18 yr old diva, did I say it's not her fault? Yes, I did. So how do we attempt to fix this...there are a few ways you can begin. Teach her how to shop! I repeat teach her how to shop. There are plenty of bargains, go to TJ Maxx, Marshalls, Ross, etc. It's amazing what you can find. I bought a coat in TJ Maxx for 50 bucks and honestly I saw the exact same coat in Strawbridges (they are gone now) for 175. Show her a budget, show her YOUR budget, show her the bills when they come in, show her how much interest you are paying on the credit card (I know that's how most of us shop), LET HER CONTRIUBTE. It is absolutely incredible how different they become when they are using their own money. It truly is like a split personality. If they are in high school and involved in sports, theatre, whatever and there truly isn't anytime for a part time job then make a list of chores they can do for you and put an amount on each chore and you pay them accordingly and from the money they earn they then contribute to paying the bill for the "things" you've purchased for them. Or, lets say they are in college, and you're paying, party's over, bare essentials is what they are entitled to at this point. Summer jobs - a must. This is when they save for the school year when they can't work. Get them involved, stop protecting them, let them see what it's really about. They are old enough now to understand LIFE. Mortgage, cell phone, cable, water, heat, car insurance, food, all of it. Show them the bills, I'm not saying scare the living daylights out of them, just bring them to an understanding that there is a time in everyone's life when we go from our teen years of mommy gimme, gimme, gimme to a young adult. Responsible, contributing (I don't care if it's 20.00 a week, it's something, take it). It is never too late to start! I will write on this topic again soon!
p.s. For all those who have children from 4 yrs. to 18 yrs. take them to the bank with you when you put money into their savings. If you don't have a savings for them as yet, shame on you go right now and open that account. e.g. From birth to 18 yrs saving 20.00 per week would yield with interest about 20,000.00. on your child's 18th birthday. I sure wish my parents would have handed me a 20,000.00 check on my 18th birthday! And this is just a basic savings account!!!!!!
Ciao (chow)